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Wednesday, November 19, 2003
our fragile life
how fragile our life is. one second we can be talking face to face with our friend, the next two seconds we get news that he has a car accident. everything can change in a single moment. i'm glad my friend is all right. it's not even his fault as he's about to take the ticket in the toll road line and suddenly a truck hit his car. how unpredictable the situation can be. always wear your seat belt. u'll never know when u'll get into an accident. every day, we all take risks, and sometimes we have no control over it at all.
our life, as well as others', can be taken from us in any countless number of ways. we could get ill. we could get attacked by the thieves. we could slip and fall in the bathroom. let's value everything precious we have now - our parents, our brothers & sisters, our best friends, our dear ones... don't slip a single opportunity to thank them for their support and love.
life is so fragile, yet so full of opportunities. the greatest gift god could ever give us is the gift of life. everyone alive is trully blessed. let's use that incredible gift to the utmost. let's not waste a day. let's do something worthwhile for others. let's live everyday to the fullest, and never being afraid to take risks. remember how in an instant the music can stop...
stelly @ 6:57 PM
Friday, November 14, 2003
equilibrium
dzien dobry, everyone! (good morning, polish)finally, i exercised! together with 3 other friends who have the same spirit, hopefully i'm able to keep this up, at least 3 days a week. it really felt great to touch the water again... :) now some tips from the expert... *who? ME, of course! ;D* we must find time for the things important to us. HEALTH is the number one priority. it means eat, sleep, and exercise well. if we neglect it for long enough, it will surely demand our attention over the others, resulting in health crisis. how well we take care of ourselves will influence everything. for example, we cannot help others or work if we're sick. taking care of our health is the only way to maximize our contribution to our family, friends, and society.
what are the other areas?well, as for me, it includes family & friends, work, fun, personal growth, & significant other (romance). all of them should be balanced. life is more fragile than we'd thought. people come & go in our lives and as we grow older, it takes a commitment to maintain the relation. in this busy world of ours, we often forget to treasure and norture our relationships with FAMILY & FRIENDS. as adults, we sometimes forget how important they are for us to having social balance.
WORK refers to anything that must be done, like school or job (career) or household works. be cautious in spending your time for this area, especially for career. we don't want it ruins the other areas, right?! my career means something that provides me with the opportunity to earn income, meet new people - interact with them - express myself, and develop my potential. i'm loyal as long as all of them are still provided by my current job.
and then there is FUN - which cannot be neglected - it means relax & enjoy life, release the stress, experience new thing. it's good for physical & mental health. next PERSONAL GROWTH which has something to do with SOLITUDE. i guess each person needs quite time to recharge their batteries, a personal "time out" period to work on self. lastly, our ROMANCE PARTNER. whenever possible, combine several roles at once so we can make it win-win solution. the most easiest example is having fun together with our boy(girl)friend.
each of us has a unique picture of what life balance means and how we want to achieve it. we have control over our own life, like how much of our time & resources we want to dedicate to which area. only WE know what is best for us. we don't have to balance it perfectly, we only need to balance them in a way that best expresses our potential & role on earth.
enough for today's lesson. have a well balanced life for all!
stelly @ 9:23 AM
Friday, November 07, 2003
equality in domestic area
i was astonished to know that my friend looks for a wife who is willing to SERVE him. it's one of the criterias he put on his list except the woman must be also beautiful, smart, understanding, listen to him, and not stubborn. i cannot believe that idea really comes from my friend who is living and working in modern society and belong to those so-called new generation. ok lah, he was raised in a conservative chinese family which i know exactly puts the man superior than woman and gives all the privileges to the man to be served by his wife. even i once heard it's a humilitation for the man to work at the kitchen.
come on... the world changes and so the way people perceives things. cooking for example. both men and women these days should know how to cook. it's just not fair to put all the burdens to the wives to clean the house, to cook, and to SERVE the husband while she also has been working all day!
where it goes all kartini struggles if some modern men still think that kitchen area is not the place they should be, as well as the cleaning, the washing, the taking care of the children, and other domestic houseworks. the idea of wife as maid, mother, and chef that has been brainwashed into their head doesn't fix anymore in this 21st century.
for me, the ideal picture of couple is when the husband works with the wife hand-in-hand. i have the best example myself which is my own father (i have a polish father and a chinese mother). since their first year of marriage, my father shares the household works with my mom. he cleans the floor, helps with the laundries, and most of all fixes any devices that require assembly. well, i'm not married yet, but i know for sure that's what i want from my husband when i am. that's what we call "understanding man". may their tribe increase!
sorry if i sound cynical... i just want to stress my point that man and woman are equal partners. of course i don't mind serving my husband hot cups of coffee while he is watching tv... but that initiative comes more because i love him and not because i owe him something or worse because that's my obligation to do that as his wife. and i would also love to have cups of milk tea specially prepared by him. that means equal. equal with specialization, of course. i can depend on my man when it comes to the tasks pertaining craftsmanship and he can depend on me on financial management.
in conclusion, modern man must be supportive of his wife's career aspirations, an equal time father, and if possible, a cook in the kitchen, too. period.
stelly @ 9:21 AM
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